In the aftermath of the horrific Bengaluru molestation, we invited feminist writer and columnist Sreemoyee Piu Kundu to throw some light on slut shaming. And why women need to rewrite the rules. Last night, I was on a call with one of my married girlfriends who is in her mid 40s. Sexy, super toned and not scared to show skin, always flaunting her tattooed cleavage or her bare, bronzed back, she had recently struck up a great camaraderie, bordering on flirtatious with a something, her workout partner in her neighborhood gym. It wasn't something that was going to go down well with the other married women in her plush complex, who gossiped about how she sexually frustrated she was, alleging that since her husband kept long working hours, she was sneaking in young lovers into her apartment. Just because I have a year-old son, am I expected to look like a frump and behave perennially in an asexual manner, and keep away from interactions with men half my age?
Are You Being Shamed for Being Single? Here's What to Do
Are You Being Shamed for Being Single? Here's What to Do | HuffPost
Well, according to many of you, there is a stigma surrounding being single, and I for one think we need to address it. If anything, people in crappy relationships who act as if everything is hunky dory should be shamed … but I digress. So here's my advice for Alexa, who was picked apart by her coworkers: never feel embarrassed for not finding love at this very moment. Come on, Mannerly Nation, you know me better. There is no rule that says that. It will happen when it happens.
STOP WITH THE SLUT SHAMING
First things first. I'm not Taylor Swift's biggest fan. I've got more than a few issues with her commodification of feminism and female friendship and my perceived impact it's had on young women. And also, I'm totally mad I don't own her house. But that's not her fault.
Do you know how much I hated being single in my twenties? Reader, let me count the ways. I hated the fact that weekends stretched out for eons and eons, empty and alone, the only highlight being a bottle of wine and a pizza in front of The X Factor. Tell us about the fun things you have been up to! I hated that I was expected to come armed with both a bottle of wine and several embarrassing anecdotes about one night stands and aborted attempts at relationships, that everyone thought I was incapable of expressing an opinion about Ed Miliband.