In a Starbucks on the Boston University campus, Dave Griffin sat down with an acquaintance from his hometown of Duxbury. Griffin placed two coffees and two croissants on the table. Griffin and his date caught up on how freshman year had been, the conversation tinged with awkwardness, until they reached the minute time limit. Before they parted ways, he invited her on a second date. Unknown to his companion, Griffin had invited her for coffee as part of an assignment for a Boston College class whose instructor, Kerry Cronin, gives extra credit to any student who will go on a date. The reason?
Why the 'Hookup Generation' Does Not Need to Learn How to Date
An Inside Look at Boston's Campus Sex Culture
At Boston College, there is a general understanding about the hookup and relationship culture. BC is simply a hookup college. Hardly ever do we see BC couples walking around holding hands. These rare glimpses of commitment got me thinking about the idea of love in college.
Hookup Culture an "Aspirin for Loneliness"
Click here to watch Donna Freitas on BUniverse. Freitas spent five months talking to college students and found a dissonance between what the students said they wanted for themselves — meaningful relationships and romance — and what they felt everyone else wanted — namely, partying and hooking up. Freitas credits a group of students she taught at St. Freitas wondered if this tension was unique to Catholic campuses, so with the help of several student research assistants, she spent five months interviewing students at other Catholic colleges, at Evangelical Christian colleges, at nonreligious private colleges, and at public universities. Overwhelmingly, she says, she found that students believed that they were out of the ordinary for wanting meaningful, romantic relationships, as opposed to casual sexual encounters.
Over the weekend, an article in the Boston Globe highlighted a class at Boston College in which the professor offers extra credit to students if they ask another student out on a date. The date is mandatory in another one of her seminars. The rules: it must be a legitimate love interest; they must ask in person not via text, etc.